Perspectives on family

God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. — Ephesians 1:5 (NLT)

Family. Where do we start?

Some are good, some are not so good, some are indifferent, some are terrible. When we think of family, it conjures up so many different pictures for different people, depending upon our background, our upbringing, our experiences, and our circumstances. We may be in a family, or we may be alone; we may have been part of a family in the past, and are part of a different family now; we have a different family when we grow up and leave home, leaving the family we once had behind us. We may long for a family; or we may long to be separated from our family. 

Family is akin to belonging. We are all longing for a belonging. We either feel that we do belong to someone or something; or we feel as we don’t belong. Either way, we may be wrong!

For years, in my childhood, I grew up feeling as though I didn’t belong. I was adopted, and I felt rejected and abandoned, unloved and unwanted. It was all a lie. Well, whilst it was true that I had been adopted, I was never rejected, never abandoned, never unloved and always wanted. I just didn’t know it!

But who is family in the first place? Is family merely restricted to those who you share a blood relation with? What about when we marry? What if we don’t marry, and we end up spending our lives alone? Well, let me give you a different perspective on family.

Did you know that every person on Earth right now can trace their blood line back to a single female ancestor who lived around 200,000 years ago? So, we are all brothers and sisters under the skin. We all share the same blood line! We’re all related! We’re all part of one family! Scientists have proven, without a shadow of any doubt that Eve existed! And not only that, but we are also all her descendants. You will find the information in numerous scientific sources such as the journals, Nature and The New Scientist. 

So, we are all family. Doesn’t that change your outlook a little on who you might want to help? The same homeless person in your street that you pass by every day – he or she is your family! Are you going to help? Maybe, you have a different view of family. Maybe, you don’t feel a part of a family right now. Maybe, you feel alone, lonely, and not a part of a traditional family that you can call your own. But if you are a believer in the Lord Jesus Christ then you have a church family.

God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure.

— Ephesians 1:5 (NLT)

The lost, the least, the lonely and the leper – we are adopted into God’s family. It’s His plan all along; He decided chose us long ago, it’s what He wanted to do; and it gave Him great pleasure. He loves us so much, He decided to adopt us in to His own family. I might have been adopted out of my birth family, but we have all been adopted into God’s family. All we have to do is believe.

Do you believe? What does family mean to you? Maybe having read these truths, you will now have a different perspective on family.

May we pray: Thank You, Lord, that You know where we are. Whether we have a family that we belong to here on earth, we are adopted into Your family. Help us learn the truth that we are adopted in, that we are loved and wanted; and that we give You great pleasure. We ask this in the precious name of our Saviour, Christ Jesus; Amen.


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