Communication vs Connection

“And the Lord God said, 'It is not good that man should be alone.'” — Genesis 2:18 (NKJV

How many communications do you receive each day? And how many times do you communicate with others? I bet it is a countless number of times.

At the time of writing, I have 41,004 emails stacked up in my email folder! OK, it’s an old email that I started using well over a decade ago. I subscribed to lots of newsletters that I no longer read! But they still come – countless numbers of communications from people I don’t know, will ever know, and will never meet. They may communicate with me, but they don’t connect.

The telegraph pole outside my window has several lines on it – each communicating with a different household, taking telephone calls and delivering emails to, most likely, several different addresses. I wonder if they, too, have over 40,000 communications sat in their inboxes, unread and never will be read? 

It’s sad to realise that they – like us – use those very lines of communication to connect with family, friends, and others, sometimes all over the world. But we have never met, we have never connected, other than communicating with a cursory, “morning” or “hello,” or a wave of acknowledgment as we walk or drive past during the day. We have no connection.

We desperately need to connect with others. Social media is great at communicating, but not so good at connecting – however many so called “friends” you have, or followers. Connection is key, not communication.

How are you doing? Do you feel the need to connect, not communicate? You know, connecting doesn’t have to involve a lot of conversation! Usually, there has to be some; but sometimes it’s just a smile, an arm on the shoulder, a word of encouragement, a compliment, a sincere Thank You or more. Sometimes, it’s just spending time with someone, being by their side, being present with them – not engrossed in your social media, communicating – but present, silent and connecting at a far deeper level.

It’s what we all need. Whilst it’s harder over the telephone, and probably impossible through social media or texts or emails, it’s still possible to connect – truly connect – with someone who is not in the same place as you. And it’s important too, if you live alone, are isolated, and feeling lonely or vulnerable.

Why not connect with someone today, tomorrow, or this week? Why not reach out to someone you feel drawn to? Don’t just communicate with them – connect with them; and see what difference it makes to your world and theirs. We weren’t meant to be alone – God realised that as soon as He had created us. He said, “It’s not good that man [human beings, male or female] should be alone.”

May we pray: Thank You, Lord, that know that it is not good that we should be alone. Help us reach out and connect with others.  We ask this in the precious name of our Saviour, Christ Jesus; Amen.


If you’re struggling to reach out and are feeling lonely right now, we would like to pray for you – please get in touch. We would like to connect with you, not merely communicate. May God Bless You.

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